"And then.... there are other ways to go about handling your 'affairs'... easy and uncomplicated ways, depending on YOUR individual circumstance and situation"
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NOTE - - - Copy and paste each article into a word processor, print, and place in a 3-ring binder for your family - - -

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

#8.....Part 1, Funeral Arrangements

Upon My Death name ________________________

Date prepared _______________


Part 1…FUNERAL ARRANGEMENTS


THE FOLLOWING THINGS I DESIRE AND REQUEST FOR MY FUNERAL


NOTE: Because everyone is different as to what they want for their funeral, decide about yours and write them all down, with any necessary explanations.

EXAMPLES:

* Right after I pass away, call the Mortuary …. Phone #____________. The address is _________________ . Ask them to come for my body and give them any other necessary information they ask.


I would like the “Full Service Graveside Service” package …. Around $2400.

Casket…..a very inexpensive one, PLEASE. (with light blue material inside, if possible). NO sealed casket …the lowest cost for unsealed caskets (in steel) are about $1200


Vault… which is a container that is put into the open ground into which is lowered the casket. I want a cement vault….NOT Sealed. Get the lowest priced cement vault, around $800.


Clothing/jewelry….___________________________________________________


Flowers on casket….all different natural colored daisies only (not spray colored)… with greenery


* I would like a single 2 hour private family day viewing at the Mortuary… on day of burial only, and a private family graveside service. No church service. No service at the mortuary. No viewing the day before the burial.


* I have written out my obituary (in this booklet)…give it and the photo I chose, to the mortuary. The mortuary will make arrangements to have it put in any newspaper you want. Have it put in the ___________________papers. Mortuary will also make arrangement to have a radio announcement if you desire.

The mortuary will notify Social Security about my death

After you have the date and time of viewing and burial, call (see below) one person from each main family, of my death and give them the funeral information …ask that family person (below) to notify all their other respective family members. This will make it easier on you.



___________ side...name____________________phone_______________


___________ side...name ___________________ phone_______________


___________ side...name____________________phone______________


____________side...name____________________phone_______________



* Burial will be in the _______________ Cemetery, address __________________. I will be buried next to my husband (we have the double headstone). It is amazing how much of the details that the mortuary takes care of. They try to make it as easy for the family as possible. Have the mortuary take care of arranging that my death date be inscribed on the headstone.


* Pallbearers...I would like: ___________________________________________

* I would like ___________________________ to give the “family prayer” at the mortuary just before the closing of the casket.


* I would like ___________________________________to speak at my funeral.


* I would like the following music: __________________________________________


* I would like __________________________________ to offer the “dedication of the grave” at the cemetery.



I DO NOT WANT TO SLIGHT OR HURT ANY ONE OF MY CHILDREN’S FEELINGS. WORK ON THIS TOGETHER……SWITCH ASSIGNMENTS AROUND IF NEED TO, JUST SO THAT ALL OF YOU ARE OK WITH EVERYTHING.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

#7...Contents of this binder

CONTENTS OF THIS BINDER
Prepared date _______________

(example)


“UPON MY DEATH” ---- I, ______________________ have previously prepared this binder to emotionally help in all the preparations and business matters that will be necessary after my death. I have gone over these instructions carefully, so as to cover every conceivable item that needs to be taken care of. I have done this out of love and consideration for my family…to help somewhat in lifting a burden for them at a difficult time in their life.



There are 4 parts to this binder:


Part 1…”My funeral arrangements”, as per my desire and request. Also included is an obituary notice and photo for newspapers.

Part 2…”Immediate financial things to take care of”. Also, a paper stating my important “legal” information, a copy of my “Last Will and Testament”, a copy of “General Power of Attorney”, and a copy of my medical “Living Will”.

Part 3…”Urgent things to take care of right after the funeral”.


Part 4…”Miscellaneous things to do after the urgent things”, such as bills and my belongings.